Have you been looking at things with a more critical eye?
It’s hard to let go of the dream isn’t it?
Even when that dream holds us down or makes us feel bad.
We strive and strive and can never seem to look like that girl in the magazine but when we are told it is all an illusion we just can’t get our brains to believe it.
Keep working on it. This doesn’t happen overnight.
Today let’s go over our last two steps to help us achieve a better image of ourselves.
Step 4
Just the facts
Describe yourself to yourself but not in the emotional self-hating way we have ingrained in us.
Instead of I have mousy brown hair state the actual facts: I have light brown hair.
Instead of I have these ugly wrinkles around my eyes say what they really are: I have 3 lines around my eyes that are about ½” long.
If you talk about your looks without the extra emotional loading, it leads to greater self acceptance.
Step 5
Dress the part
Steal a secret from the pro’s, wear only what is flattering to you, what plays up the good parts from your “likeable” list and makes you feel good about the way you look.
Don’t wear things just because they are hot right now. If it pinches, bulges or does any otherwise less than flattering things to your body, leave it on the rack.
One of the reasons the stars always look so good is because they only wear what makes the best of their assets.
Every time you see them all you notice is how great their arms are, or their legs, or how great of a smile they have.
By diverting attention away from the negative you only see the positive.
It works like a charm for them. Give it a try.
I have taken several posts to discuss this issue because I’m really passionate about it.
Every day I speak with women who spend the first 20 minutes of our meetings telling me every negative thing about themselves in very unkind detail and I wonder would they ever talk to a friend that way?
Look outside your own mirror.
How you see yourself and how others see you when they look at you are usually miles apart.
Think of your best friend. What is one thing she is constantly complaining about in regards to her looks? Do you see it the same way? Do you think she is making a big deal over nothing?
Now look at yourself. Are you doing it too?
Your negative body image probably doesn’t reflect what other people see.
Keep improving
No I’m not talking about "fixing" things, I’m talking about taking actions in your life everyday that make you feel proud of who you are.
Get involved in a regular workout routine like Booty Boot Camp, change just one thing about your diet over the next 30 days, take the time to value your body as much as your mind. It is not a prisoner on this journey of life; it is the only vessel you have to get you through this thing called life. Treat it well.
Soon we are going to talk about the changes you are going to make in the next 30 days.
Yep YOU!
Stay tuned
Sarai Jones